Soft butch fashions for fat women?
The title pretty much says it all. One thing I’ve come to terms with is that I’m really not particularly femme. I like pretty dresses and swirly skirts, just not on me. I can’t move right or I’m always worried that some magic pervert wind will come and show everyone my underpants.
In some ways this is a relief. I was forever buying dresses more for the hope that they would impart some mystical feminine quality to me. I suspect the effect was more low-rent drag queen.
Instead, as I’ve gained a ton of confidence over the past year, I realized that I feel best in what might be called ‘soft butch’ kind of clothes. A nice pair of jeans, a fitted polo and some pumas? Watch out, laydeeeeeeeez, attrice is here to steal your heart. *wink*
But I have so much damn trouble finding things that are remotely androgynous in plus size stores. Everything has to have some sort of flared sleeves or sweeping cut. I can’t even find a simple v-neck tee that doesn’t include some kind of weird rouching or giant buttons or a big flower motif on it.
Why is this? I mean, it could very well be that options for fat women are more scarce all around. But I do feel like when I am in other stores, that it’s much easier to find more clothing closer to the butchy side of fashion. Is it because androgyny is ‘sexy’ on thin women and not on fat women in our society? Part of me suspects this has something to do with it.
This really isn’t any kind of complete thought. I’m just throwing some stuff out here, but I’m wondering if fat women are encouraged to be more feminine to ‘make up’ for the terrible sin of taking up more space than women are allowed? Does anyone else feel like the selection of clothes available in an average lane bryant is a lot more frilly than in the average new york and company?
Any other butch-ish women out there who can point me towards a place to buy clothes? And yes, I’ve tried men’s stuff, but I mostly hate the cut of the clothes.